Taneille Smith, LMFT

Tips for Making The Most Out of Therapy

Therapy is as successful and you make it. Explore these tips as you begin exploring therapy to help you get the most of out your experience. 

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Frame Therapist <a href="https://client.tryframe.com/therapists/taneille-smith" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Taneille Smith</a> shares her tips for making the most out of therapy. These are incredibly useful for anyone <a href="https://client.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">starting therapy for the first time</a>, as well as for those who are re-engaging at difference phases of life.&nbsp; 

#1: Be clear about what you want out of it.
How can we do this?&nbsp;If you are having difficulty clarifying what you want out of therapy, it can be helpful to come at that question from a different angle.&nbsp;&nbsp;
Whenever I am talking with someone for the first time, I ask “Why are you seeking help now?”&nbsp; That question helps to contextualize whatever someone is struggling with and if you talk it through, it will lead you to what you want.&nbsp;&nbsp;
For example – let’s say you’ve acknowledged that you’ve <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/category/anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">struggled with anxiety</a> since you were young.&nbsp; You have clear memories of that as a child and it has come and gone in adulthood.&nbsp; OK, so if that issue is long standing, what is it about now that is motivating you to ask for help? &nbsp; Someone may say, for example, that they finally realized that the reason they were not going for that promotion at work is because they were afraid that they would be in a position where others would notice their anxiety.&nbsp; That if they were higher profile, they would be noticed more.&nbsp;
They knew, though, that they were perfect for that role and had the necessary skills to kick ass at it.&nbsp; In other words, something in their current experience caused them to look at the issue in a new way. Their explicit goal here is to get the promotion, but their implicit goal is to feel more capable and courageous in their life, and that's where we can start in therapy.&nbsp;
For the person that can’t identify something concrete that has recently motivated them, I would come at it from the angle of how would they know that something had changed?&nbsp; For example, for the person who just describes their circumstances as “something is off/I don’t feel like myself anymore” they could answer the questions “how would you feel if things felt more “right”, or,&nbsp; “what does being yourself feel like?”&nbsp; Answers to those questions will get at what they want.
 #2: Find supplemental material to help you swim in those waters more than once a week.
Podcasts are great sources of supplemental material. What gets discovered in sessions will just deepen and take on more meaning if you listen to others talk about this experience.&nbsp; Something like "Armchair Expert" or "We Can Do Hard Things" would be great.&nbsp; This is something you should be able to think through with <a href="https://client.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">your therapist</a>.&nbsp; They will likely have suggestions and if they don’t right away, they can get some for you.
Journaling or spending some quiet time walking, jogging, yoga – whatever is a kind of contemplative activity for you can also be helpful because people tend to have insights and “ah-ha” moments during these times.
If you’re a social media person, following a therapist/counselor that posts content that you like can be helpful.
It’s important to note that this is a balance. It is possible to get too consumed with “getting better” and drown yourself in content.&nbsp; <a href="https://tryframe.com/blog/how-to-prep-for-an-intro-call-find-the-right-therapist" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Talk with your therapist</a> about what supplemental things you’re doing.
 #3. When something isn't feeling right, bring it up!
The best advice I can give on this is to keep it real simple for yourself.&nbsp;&nbsp;
If you are anxious about bringing something up, don’t put pressure on yourself to have to say it perfectly or explain it perfectly right away.&nbsp; All you have to do is introduce the subject.&nbsp; Once you do that, you have done all you need to do.&nbsp; What happens after that is a collaborative process.&nbsp;&nbsp;
You can start by saying – “There’s something I want to bring up, but I’m nervous (or) “It feels hard” (or) “I’m not quite sure how to explain it”. &nbsp; Now it’s your therapist's job to help you out and be as patient as you need them to be.
Some people begin to notice that they pick and choose what they share because of concerns around being “liked” by their therapist.&nbsp; For most people, bringing this up feels vulnerable and therefore they feel reluctant to share it. However, if it’s not addressed it can really get in the way of doing the work you’re there to do.&nbsp;&nbsp;
It’s helpful to keep these two things in mind –
1. Who doesn’t want to be liked?&nbsp; It is a universal human desire.&nbsp; There is nothing wrong with you for wanting to be liked.
2. You are not alone – it’s common for people to worry about this from time to time in therapy. Rest assured, you are most certainly not alone.&nbsp;&nbsp;
--- About the Author: Taneille Smith is a licensed therapist in both CA &amp; WA and has been practicing for 15+ years.&nbsp; She prides herself on being genuine, direct and real with her clients.&nbsp; She specializes in working with addiction and trauma. <a href="https://client.tryframe.com/therapists/taneille-smith" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Click here to view Taneille's therapist profile</a> and schedule a free introductory call.&nbsp;&nbsp;
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Why We Should All Let Go of Perfectionism This Year

Our perfectionism may be celebrated by some, but it’s actually an under the radar anxiety trait that may be detrimental to your mental health. Read a therapist’s 101 on perfectionism and how to release this anxiety trait. 

Our <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/unpacking-perfectionism" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">perfectionism </a>may be celebrated by some, but it’s actually an under the radar anxiety trait that might be detrimental to your mental health.&nbsp; Read on for Frame Therapist <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/587" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Chelses Vinas'</a> answers to our community questions around perfectionism, and how to understand our triggers.&nbsp;
Q: What comes first, perfectionism or anxiety?
Perfectionism is an anxiety trait, and it gets reinforced over time. The more hours you stay in the office or the more you go above and beyond, the more you're seen as a great value, right?. The more that we are validated for being a perfectionist, the more that behavior stays and we actually take it as a part of our identity. For this reason perfectionism often flies under the radar as a <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">mental health symptom</a>.&nbsp;
We learn that when we perform very well, people need us, and come to us, and our <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/category/anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">mental health symptom of anxiety</a> gets masked. Outwardly you're doing well for yourself, but internally that fear of failure can weigh on you so heavily, and be the driver of why you're performing so well.&nbsp; 
Q: Are there different types of perfectionism?&nbsp;
Yes, I’ve identified two different kinds of perfectionists.&nbsp;&nbsp;
One - you're so stuck on the outcome and fear of failure that you don't even put yourself out there.&nbsp;&nbsp;
Two -&nbsp; you're so hyper focused on the little details of a project it's impossible to ever complete that project because of the standards you've given to yourself.&nbsp;
The thing about <a href="https://tryframe.com/blog/a-therapists-beginner-guide-on-anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">anxiety</a> is that we have to put ourselves in the moment we fear in order to move through it.&nbsp; We've seen over time that people tend to feel better when they put themselves into those situations and actually learn to master it.&nbsp;
So step one if this resonates with you would be recognizing that you're stuck in this pattern. Step two would be to do something very small about it. Make a baby step instead of a grand gesture. 
Q: Is perfectionism always a negative trait?&nbsp;
Maybe some people enjoy it, but it's undeniable that at some point we cannot sustain perfectionism. There is a situation that will come, person, place, or thing, and we will not be able to measure up because it will be this unattainable standard that we set for ourselves.
Now, I do think perfectionism can help you attain goals and push you forward. But remember if you're so stuck on the outcome, or you're so focused on the little details, you can stunt yourself. If it starts to impact your ability to put yourself out there because your fear or failure is so significant, it may be time to <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">seek help</a>. This could be from a professional or by reaching out to friends who maybe have been experiencing the same thing you are.&nbsp;
 Q: What are some ways we can overcome perfectionism?&nbsp;
We have to recognize our triggers. When are we performing for others? When are we trying to be perfect?&nbsp;
I think it's important to give yourself permission to take a break when you need it. Give yourself a time out. A “time out” could be a <a href="https://tryframe.com/blog/3-grounding-techniques-to-calm-anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">grounding exercise</a>, <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/guided-sound-mediation" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">deep breathing</a>, or affirmations.&nbsp;
Another very important step is to appreciate how far you've come. The fact that you have even started something should be recognized and celebrated.&nbsp;
Always reach out to your support system when you need it, they know you best and they can help to talk you down or talk you up if you need it.&nbsp;
Lastly, always recognize who you feel your best around and what situations those are. 
---&nbsp; About the Author:&nbsp;Chelsea Vinas is a California based Therapist whose specialities cover anxiety, stress, big life changes &amp; transitions, women's issues and more.&nbsp;<a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/587" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Click here to view Chelsea's profile&nbsp;</a>and schedule a free introductory call.&nbsp;&nbsp; You can follow her on instagram<a href="https://www.instagram.com/get_therapized/" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">&nbsp;@get_therapized</a>
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Our <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/unpacking-perfectionism" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">perfectionism </a>may be celebrated by some, but it’s actually an under the radar anxiety trait that might be detrimental to your mental health.&nbsp; Read on for Frame Therapist <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/587" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Chelses Vinas'</a> answers to our community questions around perfectionism, and how to understand our triggers.&nbsp;

Yael Sherne, LMFT

A Therapist's Guide to Handling Unwanted Pregnancy Qs During the Holidays

Tools and phrases to help you navigate your pregnancy journey during the holidays and beyond.

As a <a href="https://landing.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">perinatal psychotherapist</a>, I’m often getting asked by clients (and friends) how to handle expected conversations with family, friends, or colleagues around the holidays. Many women who are trying to conceive (TTC), recently pregnant, or experiencing fertility challenges feel some level of <a href="https://tryframe.com/blog/3-grounding-techniques-to-calm-anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">stress or anxiety</a> heading into the holidays. They are anticipating being asked questions about their family planning timeline or journey, or are worried that their behavior will invite unwanted conversations (most frequently avoiding alcohol when they would normally be drinking).

I’ve outlined the two most common questions below, along with some potential responses to consider. Use these as a basis for reflection or a conversation starting point. It’s important to consider what your personal comfort level is regarding disclosing your personal journey and experience around conceiving, fertility, or pregnancy. If partnered, it’s also helpful to discuss this with them. You may have different comfort levels regarding sharing this information, including to whom, when and how that disclosure happens.
These are important factors to clarify before entering any family gathering or social event. Remember that what you share is deeply personal, and you do not owe it to anyone to share before you feel ready. 
Q: How should I respond when someone asks about our plans for having children?
This question usually comes from family members, and not always from close ones. Navigating this question can be tricky, especially if this topic brings up big emotions for you. Respond in a way that feels good, and remember that choosing not to share personal details about your family planning does not mean you are being dishonest or lying. It means you are <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/how-to-define-and-set-your-boundaries" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">setting a boundary</a> around what you do or do not feel comfortable discussing with that particular person. I’ve listed some responses below, categorized by comfort level and personality type. 
Be direct:
“That’s really personal and I’m not comfortable sharing/answering”
“My body and family planning are not appropriate topics of conversation”
 Get Sassy:
“When people stop asking us that question – so probably not for a while”
“I didn’t know it was a group decision. I’ll conference you in to my next gyno
appointment”
 Use Humor:
“Oh my [cat/dog/bird/fish] is enough of a child for us for now”
“We’re just focusing on a lot of practicing at the moment”
 Change Topics:
[Smile] “So, how’s work?”
[Don’t smile] “So, how’s work?” 
Be Honest:
“We’re actually trying right now, but aren’t looking for comments or advice”
“We’ve been having trouble getting pregnant and are looking into our options, but I’d prefer not to discuss further. Thank you for respecting that.”
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Q: We are trying to conceive/are currently pregnant but are not ready to tell people yet. What do I do when people ask why I’m not drinking?
Whether you are expecting comments from friends, family or colleagues, many women worry that avoiding alcohol will “give them away” regarding TTC or being pregnant. While a lightly veiled response may not completely dissuade people of their guesses, if it helps them get the hint to stop asking this question, sometimes that can feel like enough. If you are not ready to share this news, here are some go-to responses, along with some helpful tricks to avoid this question altogether.
 Potential Responses:
“I’m on antibiotics/medication”
“I have a bet going with [partner/friend/dad/sister] who can abstain the longest. Big money on the table!”
“I’ve been feeling under the weather so I’m taking it easy”
“I’m the designated drive tonight. [Taking one for the team!]”
“Nope, not pregnant! Just not drinking.”
“I’ve been getting awful hangovers lately.”
“I’m focusing on my health heading into the new year.”
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Potential Tricks to Avoid the Question:
Drink soda and pretend it’s a mix drink
Empty a canned drink and refill it with a non-alcoholic beverage
Make a mocktail instead
Hold a glass of wine but don’t drink it (and let your partner/trusted friend take sips)
Offer to drive
 Remember that you are in control of how and when you share this information. Having a plan in mind can <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/how-to-identify-and-talk-about-anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">ease anxiety and stress</a>, and help you feel more comfortable and confident in upholding your boundaries.
 ---&nbsp; About the Author: <a href="https://yaelshernetherapy.com/" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Yael Sherne</a> is a licensed psychotherapist based in Los Angeles. She supports individuals and couples through pivotal life transitions, helping them find healing and happiness within themselves and their most important relationships. She specializes in perinatal mental health, relationship issues, and parenting. You can follow her work and join her community here <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thebumpy.road/" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="font-weight: bold; color: #ff6943;">@thebumpy.road</a>
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As a <a href="https://landing.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">perinatal psychotherapist</a>, I’m often getting asked by clients (and friends) how to handle expected conversations with family, friends, or colleagues around the holidays. Many women who are trying to conceive (TTC), recently pregnant, or experiencing fertility challenges feel some level of <a href="https://tryframe.com/blog/3-grounding-techniques-to-calm-anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">stress or anxiety</a> heading into the holidays. They are anticipating being asked questions about their family planning timeline or journey, or are worried that their behavior will invite unwanted conversations (most frequently avoiding alcohol when they would normally be drinking).

Maria Laguna, LCSW

Your Not-So-Typical "Holiday Blues" Survival Kit

Advice and insight from the therapist on how to manage the holiday blues. Mixed emotions are quite common during the holiday season, read on how for how to process and manage those feelings. 

It's early December in New York City, the Halloween decorations are back in their boxes, hibernating until next year, leaving space for the new window guests: Christmas trees, Menorahs and snowmen. As I enter my neighborhood's coffee shop to order my usual latte, I am greeted by Paul McCartney's music. I can't help but cringe. Don't get me wrong, I love his music. But this year, for some reason, hearing him sing "simply having a wonderful Christmas time", on the radios of every other store almost feels like he is bragging.

Why is that? Because I can't help but think of all the people struggling during this time of the year. I wanted to share with you some tips and tricks to cope with the wide range of feelings that can emerge during this season. 
1- Allow room in your mind and heart for ambivalent feelings
The cyclical nature of the holiday season can lead to us looking into the past and remembering previous holidays, this exercise in remembering can be both joyful and painful. It can make us long for family members or friends that are no longer with us. You may find within yourself a lot of sadness for previous losses, while also feeling excitement for reconnecting with family members or friends you may not have seen in a while. You may feel guilty for having this mix of emotions, but it is helpful to create space for all these feelings and understand how normal they are.
 2- Remember that we not only grieve relationships, but also plans and ideals
Perhaps the version of the Holidays you had imagined is pretty far from your actual situation. Perhaps you find yourself unable to visit your family due to COVID, perhaps yearly traditions that made you happy are not within reach this year. Recognizing that it is normal to grieve the version of the holidays you wanted will allow you to be more present during these holidays, and gives you space to come up with new plans and ideas to experience the holidays you want and can have.
 3- Activate your senses
Remember that stuffed animal you had when you were 3, that one that made you safe wherever you went? As adults we can also have our own versions of safety objects or sensations. Try to find smells, tastes, textures and sensations that feel like "home". Surrounding yourself with soothing sensations will help you regulate the mix of emotions that can occur at this time of the year. Scented candles, hot baths, weighted blankets, fluffy clothing, comforting music can be all part of a self-soothing practice, one that is helpful all year round.
 4- Let your to-do list take a nap
This time of the year can be particularly busy for many jobs: End-of-year reports, wrapping things up before the end of the fiscal year, etc. You may feel the need to be catching up with work 24/7, and may feel tempted to do some work during your Holidays time off in order to not feel behind when the new year rings. Thinking of your to-do list may make it difficult to remain present and/or feel that relaxing and unwinding is okay. Try reframing your time off from "lazy time" to "battery recharging time". Devoting the time you deserve to take a break from work and relax is not the enemy of your productivity, in fact, it will help you be more productive once your batteries recharge.
 5- Recruit your internal friendly voices to deal with family conflict
Conflict is part of human relationships, but for some people, holidays can be a time where <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/tips-for-managing-holiday-stress-anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">family conflicts</a> are heightened. People whose identity aspects are dissimilar to their families (different religion, sexual orientation, political views, etc.) are more vulnerable to conflict. There is an abundance of online material on <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/how-to-define-and-set-your-boundaries" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">how to set boundaries with loved ones</a>, ways to say no, or to remove yourself from emotionally taxing situations. In addition to relying on these resources, it is important to take an inventory of your inner resources: What are some inner beliefs about yourself that make you feel loved and <a href="https://tryframe.com/blog/3-grounding-techniques-to-calm-anxiety" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">grounded</a>? What are the voices of the people around you that you can internalize and make them yours? If you are struggling with low self-esteem in a particular moment, think of narratives that contradict this belief. What would your friends say? <a href="https://landing.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">What would your therapist say</a>? Carry those voices inside of yourself and make them yours.
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About the author: Maria Laguna, LCSW is a Certified Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist based in New York. She specializes in working with teens and adults around depression, anxiety and issues related to immigration and acculturation. You can follow her work <a href="https://www.instagram.com/marialagunalcsw/" style="color: #ff6943;">here</a>
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 It's early December in New York City, the Halloween decorations are back in their boxes, hibernating until next year, leaving space for the new window guests: Christmas trees, Menorahs and snowmen. As I enter my neighborhood's coffee shop to order my usual latte, I am greeted by Paul McCartney's music. I can't help but cringe. Don't get me wrong, I love his music. But this year, for some reason, hearing him sing "simply having a wonderful Christmas time", on the radios of every other store almost feels like he is bragging. 
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It's early December in New York City, the Halloween decorations are back in their boxes, hibernating until next year, leaving space for the new window guests: Christmas trees, Menorahs and snowmen. As I enter my neighborhood's coffee shop to order my usual latte, I am greeted by Paul McCartney's music. I can't help but cringe. Don't get me wrong, I love his music. But this year, for some reason, hearing him sing "simply having a wonderful Christmas time", on the radios of every other store almost feels like he is bragging.

A Therapist's Advice on Female Friendship Dynamics

Advice on navigating shifts in friendships as we age, setting boundaries, addressing insecurities, making new friends in our 30s, and communication tools. 


Friendships can be so many things.... wonderful, challenging, nuanced, temporary, long-lasting, the list goes on.&nbsp; We wanted to dig in to some of our Frame community questions on the vulnerable moments that come up in friendship dynamics, with a focus on the<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/unpacking-female-friendships" style="color: #ff6943;"> female friendship dynamic</a> in our 20’s and 30’s.&nbsp;

Here<a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/rachel-neporent">&nbsp;Frame therapist Rachel Neporent</a> answers those questions and weighs in on navigating shifts in friendships as we age, setting boundaries,<a href="https://landing.tryframe.com/get-started" style="color: #ff6943;"> addressing insecurities</a>, making new friends in our 30s, and communication tools.&nbsp;
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Q:&nbsp; I'm really finding it difficult to make new friends. I'm in my thirties and it feels like women, my age, just aren't looking to add new people to their lives. Any suggestions?
It might feel like people aren't looking to add new people into their lives, but it doesn't mean that that's a hundred percent true? Trying to<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CLkWCvMHffB/" style="color: #ff6943;"> challenge that distorted thought</a> and then engaging in problem solving is helpful because if we live in this space of, “it feels like no one wants to make new friends, it might inhibit our ability to go out there and try.&nbsp; That's the first thing, the second would be really looking at what do you like to do? Thinking about what you like to do and then engaging in those activities may allow you to meet people who have similar interests to you.&nbsp;
An example of this would be if you go to yoga and everyone else there enjoys yoga, you're probably going to meet a few people who also want to talk about the class or talk about their practice. That carries into going to a special event that the yoga studio holds, or people getting together after class. Challenge yourself to say “yes” to these things.&nbsp;
Another helpful way of connecting to new people in your thirties is really working on that connection to yourself. The more you work on energetically giving to yourself, giving to your passions and your hobbies, your work, your relationships, the more people are going to want to engage with you.
So again, back to the stem of the question, if we're engaging in a way of “nobody wants to talk to me, no one's looking to meet new people”, we're probably not going to meet new people because we're also putting off that energy that no one wants to talk to you.&nbsp; So this might be the first time you’ve really had to try to make new friendships, but continuing to work on yourself, engaging in activities that you enjoy, and being open to what's shown to you is going to be really helpful in terms of creating new friendships.&nbsp;
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Q: What are your thoughts on friendship breakups? It sounds smart when needed, but I know it will create tension in my friend group.&nbsp;
Friendship breakups can be really challenging and really confusing. I'm thinking of the phrase “friends forever”, where I think we often engage with the perspective that friendships are forever.
I think of course the hope is that we can have friendships forever, but we do go through changes and iterations of ourselves throughout our life so being open to the fact that relationships might also shift and change is really crucial to our<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/category/personal-growth" style="color: #ff6943;"> growth as human beings</a>.&nbsp;
If a friendship is<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/how-to-define-and-set-your-boundaries" style="color: #ff6943;"> crossing your boundaries</a>, or it's not meeting your needs, this is when re-evaluating your boundaries, your needs, and your friendship is super important.&nbsp;
This question is specific to how a friendship breakup impacts a friend group, and I think this is even more sensitive because there's more than two people involved. It's you figuring out what boundaries are right for you, how to honor yourself, honor your other friendships and still be a part of that community or group in a way that feels doable.&nbsp;
If it's really unsafe for you to be around and spend time with that person, then setting boundaries with your other friends and talking to them about what feels safe and comfortable for you might be needed. That might mean you don't spend time together, and<a href="https://landing.tryframe.com/get-started" style="color: #ff6943;"> talking to a therapist</a> or a trusted friend or a family member about what boundaries work for you and maybe how you want to communicate this conversation, either with that one person or the group, is going to be really helpful.&nbsp;
Know that some friendships are in your life for a reason at a certain time, and maybe that's what their purpose was. Everyone is going to have different perspectives, different life understandings or messaging that works for them. It's also about finding what works for you in terms of letting go, or loss, because that's really what this is like, it’s like a breakup with a romantic partner or a loss in life.&nbsp;
Again, in these instances, it's so important to zoom out, to what actually works for you and like what actually makes you feel good.
That might mean moving on from a certain friendship, and that doesn't mean that you're bad, or you’re a bad friend. It just means that for the reasons within that relationship, that it's maybe not the right relationship or the right friendship for that current time in your life.&nbsp;
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Q: I introduced two of my close friends to each other. They hit it off and now I'm actually feeling left out. Can I say something? My feelings are hurt.&nbsp;
It makes so much sense that your feelings would be hurt in this instance. My first thoughts are you can definitely say something, and you should say something.&nbsp;
Express how you feel about the situation. This could sound like: You're both really important to me. I notice you are spending time together without me, can we talk about that because I do feel a little hurt by it. Is there something you guys enjoy doing that I don't, or is it possible that we can all spend time together?&nbsp;
That’s one piece - approaching them in a really open and kind way, expressing your hurt, but also being curious about it. This way you don't get angry before you need to.&nbsp;
The other piece is to be open to friendships growing, evolving, and changing. This is also an opportunity to try being vulnerable and confronting an individual in a healthy and safe way to really better understand what's happening.&nbsp;
Come to the situation first with vulnerability,<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/getting-comfortable-with-your-emotions" style="color: #ff6943;"> acknowledgement of your feelings</a> and curiosity. From there you can further navigate the dynamic once you approach it in a curious and in kind way.&nbsp;
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Q: My friends are quite competitive. I don't feel comfortable being vulnerable or even sharing my successes because it seems I'm either too weak, or trying to brag. Any advice on breaking this tension?
I think when competition comes within a friendship, it can be really challenging to feel safe. When these frictions come up in friendships, it's really an opportunity to connect to yourself. What are your needs? What makes you feel safe? What makes you feel good, loved, and connected in relationships? If competition doesn't fit into that, which makes so much sense, this is an opportunity to talk to your friend.&nbsp;
Another suggestion in order to handle this is modeling. Modeling that it's okay to be happy for your friends when they have an achievement, and then engage the way you would want someone to engage with you. Then there’s the vulnerability &amp; communication piece, sharing with your friends I feel like there's this like unspoken competition when it comes to ‘x’. I really want our friendship to feel safe, healthy, and loving for both of us.&nbsp;
Another thought is competition can come from insecurity. So if you try to help your friend feel secure, this might lessen the intensity of the competitiveness over time.
Just really being happy for your friend can also let them know that they can do that for you.&nbsp;
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About the Author: Rachel Neporent is a licensed clinical social worker and modern millennial psychotherapist based in Los Angeles. She works with clients on anxiety, depression, trauma, wellness and self-care, relationship with self and others with the ultimate goal of healing and growing in tandem with finding your truest and best self and your most authentic lifestyle.&nbsp;
<a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/rachel-neporent" style="color: #ff6943;">Click here to view Rachel's profile</a> and schedule a free introductory call.&nbsp;&nbsp;
If you're looking for additional therapist recommendations, Frame is here to help.&nbsp; Create your (free) <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Frame profile here to get started.</a>
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Friendships can be so many things.... wonderful, challenging, nuanced, temporary, long-lasting, the list goes on.&nbsp; We wanted to dig in to some of our Frame community questions on the vulnerable moments that come up in friendship dynamics, with a focus on the<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/unpacking-female-friendships" style="color: #ff6943;"> female friendship dynamic</a> in our 20’s and 30’s.&nbsp;

How to Prep for an Intro Call & Find the Right Therapist

An intro call is your time to connect with and speak to a therapist before deciding to work together. Read on for a therapist's breakdown of how to make the most use out of this 15min intro and how to best vet the right therapist for you. 

Chemistry &amp; relationship are arguably the key components of your therapy experience. But how do you know the right fit? What questions should you ask? How do you best utilize the free intro calls therapists offer?&nbsp;

We sat down with <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/barbara-morales-rossi" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Frame therapist Barbara Morales-Rossi</a> to talk about how you can approach your initial intro-calls and your first session. She also shares tools to help you process and communicate your preferences and needs.&nbsp;
Q: What is an intro call and what should I expect?&nbsp;
An intro call is a free 15-20 min call that therapists offer before taking you on as a paying client.&nbsp; It can also be referred to as a “consult call” because it can go into some more in depth questions about background, <a href="https://tryframe.com/blog/4-tips-to-read-before-your-first-therapy-session" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">what therapy is going to be like</a>, scheduling, insurance and helping you to decide whether or not you want to work with that therapist as a potential client.&nbsp;&nbsp;
You would get an opportunity to hear the therapist’s voice, to ask a couple of questions based on the profile you've seen. It gives you the opportunity to really feel how they’re going to show up for you, how there could be a therapeutic rapport. That is probably the most important indicator, whether I'm going to be a fit, or the other two therapists that you might call later on. That really speaks to how therapy's going to go. There's so many studies done that the best intervention, if there is any, is therapeutic rapport. Do I get you? Do I hear you? Do I feel you? Whether it's through a computer, a phone call, or in person wholly matters, and this is where you are the expert of who's going to help you.
That's what we're missing a lot of the time, and perhaps that's <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/register" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">what you're looking for in therapy</a> - that one person that gets you.
***[It's common that someone may request an intro call with more than one therapist.] Q: Is it normal to feel nervous before an intro call? It feels like a high pressure dating situation.&nbsp;
Being really nervous before an intro call is actually quite normal! It's okay to feel that way, and actually it would be awesome if you actually said that - “I am really nervous about this. I don't know what to say. I wrote some questions down but I'm blanking out.”&nbsp; Saying just that really opens you up, and the therapist will be able to say It's completely normal and I'll help you along the way. The fact that you even said, “I don't know what to say. How do I do this?”, that's an opening for many other adventures that you're going to have in therapy.
I kind of like to look at <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/what-is-therapy" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">therapy as an adventure</a> because you are turning yourself inside out and that can be really scary. But it can be so wonderful at the same time, because you're going to get a chance to meet yourself as you never thought you could.&nbsp; 
Q: How can you really best vet a therapist if you're not sure what you need, or what you're looking for?&nbsp;
I highly recommend you write down things discussed and your reactions after the intro/consult call, close it up and come back to it in a day or two. You can then be able to formulate whether this was a good vibe or not for you, whether the therapist is for you or not. This is also a really good process for when you might want to end therapy with your therapist. By having that practice of giving yourself the time to process the intro call, or therapy, write down your questions, write down your thoughts, and bring them to the table. Like I shared before, there is no wrong question. It's curiosity, bring your thoughts and curiosity to the table and it can be discussed.&nbsp;
Q: If you know it's not the right fit during an intro call, what should you say?&nbsp;
Hopefully you will be able to say “this is not working for me”. That speaks to a lot of strength. If you can say, This is not going to work for me. Thank you so much for your time. I really appreciate it. You gave me some questions to think about. That would be great, because that's what this is about. It's a learning lesson. A therapist should never, never take it personally.
Q: What are some <a href="https://tryframe.com/blog/how-to-find-the-right-therapist-what-to-expect-in-therapy" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">expectations of the first therapy session</a> that aren't really accurate?
Some of the things I've come across from clients, and we laugh about this afterwards, is that they'll have this expectation that I am going to present some sort of magic pill, some intervention, something that's going to change their life tremendously and they won't have to do anything.&nbsp;
That’s an expectation I have no problem dismissing. I do think movies and social media of all sorts depict therapists as having the answer to everything and it's not true.&nbsp;
Therapy's about empowering you, discovering what you can do for you and not having to reach out all the time for someone else.&nbsp;
The first session is about intake. It's about exploring the past and how it's showing up in the present. There can be a lot of things going on that inhibit life functioning, like being able to go to work or being able to handle grief or being able to take care of your kids. First week as a therapist, I have to get to know you. I have to hear your patterns and track what's been getting in the way.&nbsp; 
Q: If people feel uncomfortable being direct with their therapist, for example, they don't agree with something they said during the session or they're ready to end sessions altogether, what would you suggest?&nbsp;
That speaks to a fear of not wanting to hurt other people. What you’re doing is putting people ahead of you instead of how you feel. A really good therapist is going to call that to question because you're showing a snapshot of how you move in the world and that might be something to work on.&nbsp;
It's called people pleasing. When I’m working on an assignment with a client I will say, I encourage you to think of doing this assignment for yourself. It's not for me. I will let a client know if this doesn't work for you, please tell me because I need your feedback. This is your therapy. It's not mine.&nbsp;
If we do 10 sessions and you decide, I think I want to change and do something else, I'm hoping you can tell me that because that's a part of therapy. You can speak your mind and I'm not going to take it personally. This is you making changes in your life. This is you having that courage and strength to be able to say “This is not working. I love working with you, but I need to move on.” &nbsp;The practice for me as a therapist is to introduce the idea that it's okay to say no, it's okay to be uncomfortable and tell me how you feel.&nbsp; 
Q: What would you say to someone who is <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/register" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">interested in exploring therapy</a>, but is really intimidated by the entire thing?
Put your best foot forward and just do it because if you can make the step towards getting the help that you feel that you need, that just speaks volumes of the other courageous acts that you're going to be taking the rest of your life.
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About the author: Barbara Morales-Rossi is a California based Therapist whose specialities cover personal growth, codependency, addiction, substance use, and more.&nbsp;<a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/barbara-morales-rossi" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Click here to view Barbara's profile</a>&nbsp;and schedule a free introductory call.&nbsp;&nbsp; If you're looking for additional therapist recommendations, Frame is here to help. &nbsp;Create your (free)&nbsp;<a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Frame profile here to get started.</a>

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Chemistry &amp; relationship are arguably the key components of your therapy experience. But how do you know the right fit? What questions should you ask? How do you best utilize the free intro calls therapists offer?&nbsp;

Rodman Walsh, AMFT

Processing a Mental Health Diagnosis

Processing a mental health diagnosis will look different for everyone. For some it comes with shame, with others relief. Frame therapist Rodman Walsh provides guidance on the topic. 

Mental health awareness has created much needed recognition for the importance of how we take care of ourselves and our overall wellness.&nbsp; Many feel more open to talk about their struggles with mental health while also <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/login" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">seeking services and therapy.&nbsp;</a>

Yet, there is still stigma and self-judgment around receiving a diagnosis from a professional that can cause insecurities, shame and even hopelessness for some. You may find yourself asking: Why Me?&nbsp; What Now? Will I ever be the same? Not everyone will experience a mental health diagnosis the same way and it’s normal and common to feel a lot of different things all at once.&nbsp; Below are some of the feelings that may come up as you process a diagnosis:
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<li aria-level="1">Relief—“I can now identify what I’ve been going through.”&nbsp;&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Hope— “I can find tools, skills, and treatments that work and gain the support I need.”&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Fear— “I’m afraid of what this means.”&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Shock/Denial— “This can't be happening.”&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Shame— “This is a reflection on who I am as a person.”</li>
<li aria-level="1">Confusion— “I don't understand what all of this means.&nbsp; Where do I go from here?”</li>
<li aria-level="1">Anger—Why is this happening to me?”</li>
<li aria-level="1">Guilt— “How did I get here, this must be my fault.”</li>
<li aria-level="1">Grief— “My life will never be the same, will I ever feel like myself again?”</li>
<li aria-level="1">Loss of control— “I don’t know what to do or where to begin.”</li>
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These are common thoughts and might feel overwhelming, but support is available and you can still thrive and move forward!
<a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/rodman-walsh" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">As a mental health clinician</a> and someone with a personal journey, let me tell you what you are NOT:
-You are not broken.
-You are not weak.
-You are not doomed.
-You are not less than.
-You are not resigned to suffer.
-YOU ARE NOT YOUR DIAGNOSIS. You are a person dealing and trying to cope with your mental health.&nbsp; After receiving a diagnosis, these steps may be helpful as you move forward.
-Talk to a trusted friend, partner or family member.
-Shame thrives in secrecy and can make us feel isolated and alone. We take the power away from shame by talking about it.
-Educate yourself.
-Review signs and symptoms of your diagnosis to better understand and identify what you have been experiencing. With more awareness and understanding, we can better find ways to cope.&nbsp;
-<a href="https://landing.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Explore therapy</a> or treatment options.
-Other people are going through a similar experience and have found beneficial and empowering ways to move forward.&nbsp; <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/register" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Individual, group, or family therapy</a> can help you utilize new tools and skills to improve your functioning, mood, and outlook.&nbsp;&nbsp;
-Medications may also be available to treat biological aspects that impact the symptoms you experience.&nbsp; Talking to a medical professional provides more options and resources available to you to consider.&nbsp;
-Explore other aspects of your health &amp; lifestyle.
-Our physical, mental, psychological, emotional, and spiritual health are all connected.&nbsp; By making positive changes in one area will positively impact another.&nbsp;&nbsp;
 Be kind to yourself and know that we all need support at times.&nbsp; These steps are just a few that may make navigating your mental health more manageable.&nbsp; 
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About the Author:&nbsp;Rodman Walsh is a California based Therapist whose specialities cover relationship issues, personality disorders, general anxiety, and more.&nbsp;<a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/rodman-walsh" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Click here to view Rodman's profile</a>&nbsp;and schedule a free introductory call.&nbsp;&nbsp;
See Rodman in Discussion:&nbsp; -<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/how-to-support-family-members-struggling-with-mental-health" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">&nbsp;How to Support Family Struggling with Mental Health Issues</a> -&nbsp;<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/living-with-bipolar-1-disorder" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">The Experience of Living with BiPolar 1 Disorder</a>
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Mental health awareness has created much needed recognition for the importance of how we take care of ourselves and our overall wellness.&nbsp; Many feel more open to talk about their struggles with mental health while also <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/login" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">seeking services and therapy.&nbsp;</a>

Am I Dating a Narcissist?

A deep dive on narcissistic personality disorder traits, either in your partner or yourself. 

“Am I dating a Narcissist?” This is a common question that you may ask yourself when dealing with a challenging, self-absorbed partner.&nbsp; However, we often do not ask ourselves, “Am I a Narcissist?”&nbsp; There is a reason for this and to better understand these questions we first need to identify the symptoms and traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) if we hope to make changes in our relationships or for ourselves.&nbsp;

NPD is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance (grandiosity), a deep need for attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and lack empathy for others. These individuals may be charming and charismatic and have robust defenses to mask their fragile psyche and sense of self.&nbsp;
It is estimated that up to 5% of people have NPD. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder often lack the insight into their traits and behaviors, so they may be unlikely to <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">seek treatment</a>. If they do seek treatment, it's more likely to be for symptoms of <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/category/depression" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">depression</a>, <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/identifying-signs-of-substance-use" rel="noopener" target="_blank">drug or alcohol use</a>, or <a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/category/therapy-101" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">another mental health issue</a>.&nbsp;
However, their perception and response to <a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/get-started" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">treatment or therapy </a>is often internalized as a blow to their self-esteem, making it difficult to accept and follow through with treatment.&nbsp; They experience shame, vulnerability, and insecurity, but these feelings are intolerable so they will often project these feelings on to others.&nbsp;
Other common traits and behaviors include:
-A belief of superiority where others are shunned or looked down upon.
-Are often controlling and arrogant.
-Difficulty regulating emotions and anger that leads to significant interpersonal problems.
-Struggle to adapt to change and cope with stress
-May exaggerate achievements while expecting to be recognized and praised.&nbsp;
-Expect loyalty and compliance to meet their expectations.
-Often meet others with rage and contempt when feeling threatened or slighted.
-Perceive others to be mistrusting and vindictive causing them to respond with similar behavior.
-Exploit and take advantage of others for personal gain.&nbsp;
Many narcissists are also perfectionists where nothing that others do is perceived as right or appreciated.&nbsp; These qualities make it extremely difficult to find empathy and compassion for these individuals, however, the traits of this disorder may be explained by adverse childhood experiences that include excessive harshness and criticism.&nbsp;&nbsp;
Warning Signs that you may be dating a narcissist include but may not be limited to:
-“Love Bombing” &amp; “The Magical Feeling”- Narcissists may use manipulation to overwhelm and shower a person with affection, overt acts of kindness, and gifts to get what they want. “The magical connection” could be a red flag.
-Their behaviors change once a partner commits to the relationship, where they become disinterested, devalue their partner, less attentive, more self-absorbed, and inconsistent (This typically begins after the “Honeymoon Phase”).
-You feel controlled and fear speaking your mind as it might jeopardize the relationship (Think “walking on eggshells” and “gaslighting”).
-You find yourself making excuses or defending their behavior (“They didn’t really mean it.”&nbsp; “Things will get better.”).
-These relationships are often toxic and can leave you feeling anxious, full of self-doubt, depressed, hopeless, helpless, isolated, or powerless.&nbsp;
Relationships are never without challenges and continual work so you both can grow together in positive ways.&nbsp; However, you both must be willing to do the work and identify areas of the relationship that need improvement and/or opportunities for individual growth.&nbsp; If you find yourself<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/deep-dive-toxic-relationships" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;"> in a toxic relationship</a> with a partner who suffers from NPD it is best to evaluate if change is possible and reflect on the type of support you need for yourself moving forward.&nbsp;
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About the Author:&nbsp;Rodman Walsh is a California based Therapist whose specialities cover relationship issues, personality disorders, general anxiety, and more.&nbsp;<a href="https://portal-client.tryframe.com/therapists/rodman-walsh" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">Click here to view Rodman's profile</a>&nbsp;and schedule a free introductory call.&nbsp;&nbsp;
See Rodman in Discussion:&nbsp; -<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/how-to-support-family-members-struggling-with-mental-health" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">&nbsp;How to Support Family Struggling with Mental Health Issues</a> -&nbsp;<a href="https://tryframe.com/discussions/living-with-bipolar-1-disorder" rel="noopener" target="_blank" style="color: #ff6943;">The Experience of Living with BiPolar 1 Disorder</a>
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“Am I dating a Narcissist?” This is a common question that you may ask yourself when dealing with a challenging, self-absorbed partner.&nbsp; However, we often do not ask ourselves, “Am I a Narcissist?”&nbsp; There is a reason for this and to better understand these questions we first need to identify the symptoms and traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) if we hope to make changes in our relationships or for ourselves.&nbsp;

Sparking conversations around mental health.